, Setup Squad
05.02.2011 8:00am EDT
So…the
first meeting of an online date is okay, but that good night kiss is really
bad. Do you go back for more or just realize that a bad kiss is a bad
match??
– TT, NY
Hi TT-
First of all, I admire you for trying online dating because
I know it’s not the easiest thing to do. Good for you for knowing that you
really need to put yourself out there and be confident in who you are to go
through with the date!
I think that chemistry between two people is priceless:
if the connection is there emotionally, then everything else can be taken
care of. And when I say “everything else,” I mean the physical stuff.
Are you a good teacher? Have you ever tried to teach
somebody anything, whether it be how to cook, how to play tennis, how to paint,
etc? The reason why I’m asking is because you can likely teach
whomever you want how to kiss the way you want them to. Trust me, I’ve had A
LOT of dates with a lot of bad kissers (at first) and I promise you I made sure
to change that - or at least tried my best!
Everyone kisses differently, and everyone likes
things differently. If everyone was the same sexually, life would actually be
boring, don’t you think?
It is so tough to actually find someone you can connect
with, who you can get along with, and most importantly who you have FUN
with! In my experience most of my first kisses weren’t great at all – but
sometimes one (or both) of you is nervous, maybe you’re in public, maybe you
haven’t known each other that long. I would give this person the benefit of the
doubt and think about WHY you wanted to kiss them in the first place.
At least give your online date one more chance. Get into
a more romantic setting and be the initiator. Kiss the way you like to
kiss and try to train the other person to do what you’re doing. Seduce the
other person with your techniques and hopefully they’ll catch on.
The worst case? The other person is a terrible
learner. Give them three strikes until they’re out!
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